What is Perfect?

As posted our wedding video on Instagram it got so much love. I thought people were going to love the venue, the decorations, the movie production, the dress code, I thought people were going to love so much. But what the people actually loved and commented on was us; as a couple, and that came to me as a surprise. But then I thought there is some sense in that, the love we have between us is not something commonly seen, people call it perfect, but what is perfect, really?

I worry. I worry about how we only reflect the happy and that young people out there think that that's all there is. So here is the truth for you:

The perfect partner is not out there waiting for you. The perfect partner is not love at first sight or butterflies in your belly. The perfect partner does not exist. All you have to do is to find someone to love perfectly, to give your all and not demand anything back, to always keep as your number one priority. Love can never be perfect unless you try your very best to see it that way. But there is always going to be arguments, there is always going to be fights, there is always going to be things you hate, things that get on your nerves and things that drive you crazy, but that's just how humans are. It is only when you realise that that you can be perfect partners, accepting the imperfections makes it perfect.

I love my husband endlessly because the day I chose to love him I made a promise to myself to try as much as I can to be a blessing in his life and not someone that weighs him down, not someone he has to constantly try to please, not expect him to be perfect. The day I chose to love him and he chose to love me back we promised each other that whatever happens leaving is never ever going to be an option. Sometimes we wake up in the morning not feeling like love and that is okay, sometimes one person is super excited about one thing and the other doesn't get it and that is okay, sometimes we hurt each other and do not feel like apologising and that is also okay.

So please, do not look for perfect. Look for someone you can love through the thick and thin, and that should be your perfect partner.